Addressing The Mistakes Of My Past

By: Emma Onstott

Created September 12, 2025

Hey everyone. 👋

The past few months have been very hard for me. I have made some big mistakes to others that I now regret, resulting in either damaged (distancing) or destroyed (blocking) relationships. In this post, I will come here and address the mistakes I’ve made in my past, as well as apologize sincerely to every person I have hurt from my actions. While my mental health has been deteriorating, what I have done is still wrong and since then, I have changed as a person for the better. While I may not repair my relationships, I will improve at not damaging future ones.

I would kindly ask that you not harass the individuals I’m about to mention. They had to deal with a lot already, and they shouldn’t get more hate than they already have. Also, sensitive topics are going to be covered, so viewer discretion is advised.

However, the next day, a user called Shattered Polaroids (a sex worker, as you guessed) made a thread exposing how I was wrong for saying that I didn’t like sex workers for participating in the aforementioned adult subscription platforms and how I was a “bigot” for saying that.

And I agree with her. As she said, “Prejudice against an entire group [in this case, people who run OnlyFans and Fansly accounts, or as she calls it, sex workers] based solely upon their membership of said group is the most basic definition of bigotry.” She also went further and explained why people do sex work and what selling your body really means.

However, instead of apologizing for my misunderstanding and targeting others’ jobs, I decided to lash out and not only block the user, but also private my accounts (I also deleted my tweets in response), which wasn’t the best way to deal with the situation.

This incident did give me some hate because of my view on sex workers and their jobs, but it doesn’t end there. Oh, no…

Meanwhile, I decided to make a couple of posts stating that if you had an OnlyFans or Fansly account, had certain emojis in your name or bio, or just posted adult content in general, you would be blocked. So I did that to an innocent user who just so happened to have a Fansly account:

Then, the worst part came. I responded to Jenna Taylor’s earlier post with a controversial thread about why sexual content is bad, with post 1 saying that she “defend[s] lonely men giving online thots millions just for a toxic one-sided connection.” Post 2 (now deleted) was about sex worker jobs possibly ruining relationships with family and friends who find out, post 3 is about why porn is bad for you, post 4 is about the benefits of quitting, and post 5 (also now deleted) was about criticizing Jenna Taylor’s position at Transvitae.

As I expected, I have received some backlash from the thread. Jenna Taylor, this time quoting me directly, exposed me by saying how I’m an “incel” for policing her body, as well as defending sex work and her position at Transvitae by stating the other things she’s done. The comments are in support of her, and meanwhile, people like this one (cropped out their name for privacy reasons) told me that I shouldn’t care about what others do, as well as defending sex workers like Jenna Taylor did.

This turn of events caused me to get upset and private my accounts for the next week, as this all happened the day before I went to the mental hospital for a week. I also refused to eat that night and cried myself to sleep as I felt ashamed of what I had just posted about and how others reacted to it. This serves as a lesson to respect others for what they do, even if you don’t like it, like me.

I would like to say that I’m sorry to the people I’ve targeted in these posts, especially Shattered Polaroids and Jenna Taylor (the former being a sex worker). I understand that I may have gone too far on my posts, and I acknowledge the harm and hurtful feelings it may have caused you, especially since you both are transgender (like me) and already deal with a lot of hate from right-wing bigots daily.

I appreciate you both for pointing me in the right direction, even if I didn’t understand that at the time. Since then, I have deleted the harmful posts and then showed that I have changed by supporting and even promoting sex work; a stark contrast to the hate I’ve shown in the months prior. Moving forward, I’ll continue doing what I’m doing now to be a better person and make sure everyone is happy and included no matter what job they have, even if it’s doing OnlyFans or Fansly. I’ll also help defend sex work and its impact on workers, ensuring a better environment for them to thrive. I’m also available if you need anything. Thanks for helping me change, and I wish you the best.

I have learned from my mistakes on sex workers, and now I show commitment to change. However, that’s not all the things I have done wrong. I still have another (and worse) situation to talk about and address, so bear with me here.

The next day, I saw more of what they were doing and decided to post more about it, this time covering up the names and even including a video on the post.

Later that day, I made a self-deprecating quote of a post, saying that I got no likes on my coming out post while the quoted user got 30,000, and that “every f***ing platform hates me” and that “I’m not important anymore I guess.”

A user called Hexie Bee responded to my post, stating that the quoted user had over 1,000 followers, and that the increased following would cause more people to see her post, and to not compare myself to others, as it could “mess up your mental health pretty badly.”

I said that “it’s just impossible atp [at this point]” and that “comparison is my life now.” They responded with some positive affirmations to say to myself to help me get better.

Two days later, I unknowingly signed up for her “moot battle” tournament by commenting under her post, which she later announced to be for that.

Then, round 1 started. It was me against a user called Potatoest Potato. For some reason, I decided to start an argument with TheGreatRoll (the organizer) by saying to vote for the other candidate instead of me, and that I didn’t want to be here. We went back and forth, and in the end, I stood my ground and said that I hoped I lost the next day. She also said that I was ruining it for the other person (being unsportsmanlike), and looking back, I agree with her.

Also, I got on my alt account and told her to get me out of the tournament. And the worst part was that I later won the round, despite everything I said and the events that were going to happen the following day (I later got disqualified however)…

As it turns out, I would regret posting that hours afterwards. The backlash I received from the post was immense. First, Cat saw the post and said a simple “erm… ok?” before blocking me in return. Others like Hexie Bee, TheGreatRoll, and Yaz19 also blocked me.

The comments on the post reflect that. Everyone was in support of Cat and turned against me, and TheGreatRoll even went out of her way to say that I was jealous, and to rub salt in my wound, she also said that she’s getting a date (romantic partner) the following week.

One person (names cropped out for privacy reasons) said that they’re disgusted that I made that “callout post” and that I need help because I can’t let people “be themselves and be in love because [I] myself can’t.” Another person said that I’m “bitter and insufferable” and that making a post about blocking people “reeks pick me energy.”

I quickly deleted the post in response, but by then, it was already too late. The post was screenshotted and posted for all to see. So, for the next few days, people unfollowed and blocked my accounts in droves, and I ended up losing about 15 followers by the end of it all. It ended up taking a couple of weeks to get the follower numbers back up to what they were before the incident, but the damage was already done. The people that I’ve known before were now against me, and it’s all because of one now-deleted post.

The same day, I also announced that I was deactivating my accounts and ending the SeveredData brand “as we know it” as well as the mental health struggles I have. I had so much anxiety and was really upset, and I clearly regretted posting that. And so my accounts were deactivated for a few hours as an attempt to mitigate the damage (which later didn’t work once I reactivated them).

While the intent of my apology was to mend lost friendships from my post earlier, unfortunately I never heard back from them, suggesting that either they didn’t read the apology or they didn’t accept it. So, later that night, I cried myself to sleep and skipped dinner as a result. And even a month later, I still think about the incident and feel guilty for causing all the lost friendships. This incident (and the past ones) serves as a lesson to respect and be happy for who others are as a person and the things they do, don’t tell them what to do (police them), never promote yourself under others’ posts, play fair in tournaments, and most importantly, never post publicly that you’re blocking your friends for some space (or better yet don’t do it at all).

To everyone that I’ve hurt from my actions, including Cat, Jason, Hexie Bee, TheGreatRoll, and Yaz19 (there’s definitely more)… I’m deeply sorry for the harm I have caused with my posts. It was simply wrong to invade others’ spaces and push boundaries, and I should’ve respected that more. And with most of you being transgender or non-binary, this, on top of the daily harassment we all face from right-wing bigots, is super stressful, and I understand that.

The backlash I have faced made me learn a ton about how to respect others for who they are, and their boundaries. Since the incidents, I have deleted the offending posts and shown change by being respectful to my other friends, caring about them and their needs, and wishing them a good day or night as well as protecting them from hate and bigotry and showing that both themselves and their mental health matter. Moving forward, I’ll not only continue to do that, but also learn from my past mistakes to be a better person and make sure everyone is happy, as well as make sure their needs are met and their boundaries are respected. I have changed a lot, and I appreciate everyone for helping me become a better person, even if I have made some big mistakes along the way. Feel free to reach out if you need anything. Even if I never talk to or hear from you again as you all blocked me, and I understand that because you all need space after what I did last month, I still wish you all the best. Thank you.